RESOURCES

 

Secure Love (by Julie Menanno)
Here is one of the most user-friendly introductions and “manuals” to understanding and applying Attachment Science to the way you do relationships and communicate with your loved ones–and with yourself.  I actually discovered it through a recommendation by one of my clients, and have since recommended it to many clients, students, friends, and colleagues with a very positive reception.

https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/?srsltid=AfmBOoqRG5CD7fbeRJv_GQQeOXhcTHrV5Zuue6TdWlZp5p4jSCtjwelo 

Book: “Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts A Lifetime”

EFT & the Negative Interaction Cycle

Here is an introduction video regarding the “negative interaction cycle” many couples can find themselves stuck in, and the “map” EFT has provided in understanding, navigating and potentially transforming this interaction cycle.

 
“Taming the Cycle: Finding and changing the patterns that keep you stuck in your relationship”

Videos on PROCESSING OUR EMOTIONS: 

Below are some great videos created by “Therapy in a Nutshell” I like to share with clients to introduce the concept of “emotion processing,” why it’s important, and how some of the handy coping methods we may have perfected in order to survive life can also end up getting in the way of feeling emotionally grounded and whole.

 
 
Here is a video (by the same wonderfully generous therapist/content creator, Emma!) introducing some “Grounding Exercises” which can help “un-flip” our brain in moments where it could be helpful to use our bodies to tell our nervous system we are not in high alert danger:
 

Videos on working with Cognitive Distortions: 

Here are 2 Videoson identifying and changing CognitiveDistortions, and one on“CognitiveDefusion” which can be helpful to loosen the hold of cognitive distortions that feel more stuck.

 

“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things.” -Epictetus

 
The Personal Iceberg Metaphor (Virginia Satir)

Here are some videos about the Iceberg Metaphor and Coping Stances:

Personal Iceberg Metaphor reviewed (starts at :45, after a small introduction of Virginia Satir, its original author)

 

Also, here is one more that explains more this theory’s approach to “change”:

 

Self-Compassion (by Kristin Neff)
Here is a link to Kristin Neff’s website and book on Self-Compassion, and a few videos I like to share with clients.  This is so important for those of us with a harsh inner critic, who possibly know how to treat others with kindness, but somehow find ourselves at a loss as to how to treat ourselves with kindness.

https://self-compassion.org/ 

Book: “Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself”